Moving on from a Divorce

The psychology behind a divorce is never completely transparent. A strained relationship can magnify feelings of doubt, dissatisfaction, infidelity or insecurity, which can in turn yield irreconcilable differences. And when a turbulent relationship reaches its conclusion, both participants may feel a sense of disorientation.


Picking your life up after a divorce is no small task, but it’s the first challenge every former couple faces at the end of the process. Ayers Family Law knows it as well as anyone, which is why we’re sharing these four tips for moving on and coming out stronger than before.


1. Put the kids first.


In the wake of a divorce, you can’t forget there are more important people than you or your former partner: your children. Channel your efforts toward their growth and development, and make sure you’re giving them proper care and attention. Parenthood can be one of the most rewarding experiences of life – single or married. Remember, they’re only going to get older, so take every opportunity to enjoy your children at this passage.


2. Be honest.


It’s okay to feel relieved. It’s okay to feel sad. It’s okay to feel cheated. It’s okay to feel all of them at the same time! Emotions can be quick-hitting and long-lasting. It’s not worth your time to debate whether they’re right or wrong – they simply are. Embrace the way your feeling, be honest with yourself and remember that time heals all.


3. Focus on yourself.


Common wisdom suggests you can’t love someone else until you learn to love yourself first. Before you jump into another committed relationship, it may be a good idea to get to know yourself better. Reflect on your past, present and future, and give yourself time to heal. The period of time directly after a divorce allows for vulnerable moments, so use it to introspect.


4. Foster other relationships.


A bumpy marriage can pull you away from some of the other relationships you’ve valued so strongly in the past. Whether it’s a parent, a sibling, a friend or even a co-worker, do your part to fortify long-standing relationships that existed outside of your marriage. By refreshing your feelings of trust and companionship in others, you’ll do a service to your mood and future relationships.


5. Find a good lawyer.


At Ayers Family Law, we’re devoted to your best interests. Before, during and after your divorce, we can help you resolve any questions or concerns you might have about the process. Don’t let the stresses and aches of a divorce can cause you more problems in the courtroom. Trust Ayers Family Law in Charleston, SC to give you exclusive treatment and assistance as you move on to the next chapter of your life.